Twenty years ago, that famous sentence was uttered by Rodney King, and it still holds true today. One thing that I have noticed since I became a mom is that other women like to show how much they know more than others, and are quick to point out your flaws, even if they do not know the situation.
My least favorite statement of late has been, “Your daughter has been through a divorce. Don’t get on to her!” I realize that she has been through a divorce, and I have tried my hardest to make sure she was shielded from as much as I possibly could. Does that mean she can get away with murder because of it? Absolutely not! My daughter is a sweetheart and I want to keep her that way.
As moms, and women, we do like to show others how much we know. I completely get it. What I think some women are forgetting is, we are all in this together, and by criticizing other moms just so she can prove how much she knows can be hurtful. I think moms should be able to lean on each other for support, and sometimes the best thing someone can do is listen.
Are any of us perfect mothers? I don’t think anyone would or could say that. Speaking for myself, I know I am not perfect and have never claimed to be, but I do try my best. I think that most moms I know feel the same way.
So, the next time you have a stressed-out mommy sitting across the table from you and she is complaining about her child’s latest snafu, you may want to think about what support she is needing from you.