It's Father's Day. Usually I'm the one getting the cards and letters from you guys but I thought I'd turn the tables & send each of you a letter instead, as my days of parenting are coming to an end. All of you are fast becoming adults. I want you to know I loved every minute being your dad. Each of you has given your mom and I so much joy, happiness and laughter. I would gladly do it all over again but time marches on. How we spend that time determines if we have happy, successful lives or unhappy, poor lives and that is why I am writing this letter to each of you. I want each of you to have happy, successful lives. But happiness and success just don't happen. You need to create happiness and success by doing specific things. Here's a short list of some of those things I think will help put you on the track towards happiness and success:
- Spend 30 minutes every day reading for self-improvement. Almost nobody does this. The ones who do are called rich people.
- Don't watch more than an hour of T.V. every day. Why watch other people's lives on T.V. when your lives are far more important.
- Don't spend more than 30 minutes a day on Facebook or Twitter or other Social Media/Internet sites, unless it's career-related.
- Call every one you know at least once every three months just to say hello. Call everyone you know on their birthday and call everyone you know when they experience a life event.
- Relationships are everything in life. Develop and grow only those relationships with people who are positive, happy, upbeat and focused and avoid those who are negative, depressed and lack direction in life. Remember like attracts like. If you want to be happy and successful hang around happy, successful people.
- Exercise every day. Make sure to include 20 – 30 minutes of aerobic exercise in with your routine. Aerobic exercise feeds your brain with oxygen, gets your metabolism going and keeps the weight off.
- Volunteer at least 5 hours a month for some cause you believe in. You'll not only be helping people but you will also develop strong, long-lasting relationships with good people.
- Watch what you eat. Don't eat more than 300 junk food calories a day.
- Save 20% of your net pay and live off the remaining 80%. This forces you to live below your means.
- Avoid accumulating any credit card debt. If you are then this means you are living above your means and you have to cut back.
- Drink in moderation. Stick to beer and wine and avoid the hard stuff. It will only get you in trouble. Of course, don't do any drugs. Alcohol is bad enough.
- Remember the 5:1 Rule. Listen for 5 minutes for every 1 minute you talk.
- Filter every thought you have before it comes out of your mouth. Saying whatever is on your mind is a Poverty Habit.
- Control your thoughts. Thoughts become things. If you have positive, upbeat thoughts your life will mirror your thoughts. Do not let negative thoughts or sad thoughts into your mind. Cancel them out and replace them with positive, upbeat thoughts. Use daily affirmations to control your thinking.
- Control your emotions. Never lose your temper. Anger is a Poverty Habit.
- Be thankful for what you have. Every day look back on the the prior day and think of 5 things that you are grateful for.
- Don't confuse a wish with a goal. A goal is only a goal if it is 100% achievable and requires physical activity. Otherwise it's just a wish. Always have at least 1 goal you are working towards.
- Don't gamble. Gambling is a Poverty Habit.
- Listen to audio books when you are driving or exercising.
- Don't gossip. Most gossip is negative and negative thinking and talking is a Poverty Habit.
Kids, remember that success, like failure in life, is just a process. Both take effort. Both are determined by your daily habits. Your daily habits reveal which process you are following. If you have more Poverty Habits than you have Rich Habits than you will be poor and unhappy in life. If you have an equal number of Rich Habits and Poverty Habits than you will be middle class and have an equal amount of happiness and unhappiness in your life. You will also have an equal amount of success and failure in your lives. If you have more Rich Habits than you have Poverty Habits than you will be rich, happy and successful in life. And here's the big secret. You only need to have 51% Rich Habits. That puts the see saw of life in your favor. That 1% difference, often just one or two habits, miraculously transforms your life from failure to success; from unhappiness to happiness.
It's doing the little things in life that makes the big difference.
I Love you all so much.
About Tom Corley
Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor…at age 9 his family went from being multi-millionaires to poor in just one night. Tom Corley spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 wealthy people and 128 people living in poverty. Corley discovered there are vast differences in the daily habits of the two groups. During his research he identified 149 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” The culmination of his research can be found in his book, Rich Habits—The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (www.richhabits.net).