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Resolutions

Here comes 2013. Every year I try to think of a word that sums up my goals for the upcoming year, and I can’t even remember what my word for 2012 was. It was a tough year; lots of highs and lows, but I’m starting to think that just like the weather patterns of late, these are just the patterns of my life.

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Holidays

Holidays

I can imagine nothing worse than facing the holidays on a diet. I’m trying just to do what I need to do to get through the day with my sensible diet, so when my husband mentions something about all the amazing cookies that I bake every year? Yeah. I hadn’t thought about that...

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If Only...

If Only...

If only it were that easy. I tried that way, for years. It’s not always just a matter of determination and willpower; sometimes you need more.

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Progress: Month One

Progress: Month One

Can I get my insulin under control? Can I get to the point where I can go off the medication and be healthy without it? Can I continue to avoid the carbs as easily as I do now? I sure hope so. Because I don’t want to go back.

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Product Review: BodyMedia FIT LINK

Product Review: BodyMedia FIT LINK

If you’ve taken on a diet and exercise regime, sometimes the hardest part can be staying on top of all the things that you try to track—from nutrition to exercise, there’s a lot of information to juggle! Enter the BodyMedia FIT LINK, an armband that keeps track of how many calories you burn in a day, tracks your exercise and keeps track of your nutrition.

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Diet … and Don’t Forget Exercise!

Diet … and Don’t Forget Exercise!

So, the doctor put me on a plan diet to lose weight, and part of that is the calorie limit. But the other part is the exercise. I’m no stranger to exercising; I love a good workout. In the past I’ve tried out lots of different activities—to little or no effect. But this time it was different. Because this time I noticed results.

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Getting Started: Eating Right

Getting Started: Eating Right

Ironically, I’m thinking a lot more about food, but not obsessing about the food that I can’t or don’t want to eat anymore, but rather about the new kinds of foods that I can explore. I’m trying to look at it as an adventure; so far, so good.

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A New Diagnosis

A New Diagnosis

When I went to the doctor, I had no idea what I was in for. I thought it would be an easy decision to possibly have a hysterectomy—not unheard of for a woman of my age—or possibly a less-invasive procedure. Then I started to worry that it was cancer. But the diagnosis shocked me.

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Happy Halloween!

Happy Halloween!

I love fall. I enjoy Halloween, but it's not my favorite holiday. Partially, this is because of how the holiday has evolved. And this is where I start to sound like my grandmother (as in, "when I was your age ... [fill in your particular complaint here]).

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Lessons in Kindness

Lessons in Kindness

I have no idea when this happened. But it made an impact on my 8-year-old daughter. She saw me do something kind for someone on a hot summer day, and this something stuck with her. And the fact that it did humbled me; it moved me to want to be a better person than I try to be now, because I know that she's watching.

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Special Moments in Motherhoood

Special Moments in Motherhoood

We all have them, don't we? Those moments when we just want to hide under the covers. Turn off the baby monitor. Lock ourselves in the bathroom for a few moments (hours). Look around and ask "who are you talking to?" when those endless cries of "maaaa-maaaa!" come.

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Talking About the Hard Stuff

Talking About the Hard Stuff

Teen suicide is a problem, a bigger problem every year. The CDC states that suicide is the 4th leading cause of death for children ages 10-14. So I tried to talk to my boy, to tell him that when he’s in middle school (just two years from now) and high school, life seems very immediate; the things that happen each day seem like they are the beginning and the end of everything. Because of the changes happening inside of him, his attitudes about almost everything are going to change. And sometimes it seems like there’s no other way to solve a problem. But I tried to encourage him to remember that each day is a small drop in the bucket of his life, and he should always try to think beyond that day, that week, that month when things get hard.

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First Day of Fall!

First Day of Fall!

Saturday was the first day of fall, so I celebrated by decorating the house, swapping out some of my ordinary tchotchkes and subbing in some more autumnally-appropriate tidbits. Even ran to the craft store to buy some silk leaves in bright fall colors because I'm impatient. I love when the trees change colors, the crispness that comes in the air, visiting pumpkin patches, all that fall-themed stuff. Fall is by far, my most favorite season.

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I Apologize

I Apologize

To all of you who were uncomfortable and unhappy due to the unseasonably chilly few days we've had in Oklahoma, I've got to come clean. It was an answer to my prayer.

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Celebrating Grandparents Day

Celebrating Grandparents Day

Grandparents and grandchildren may not think that there is a lot to offer to one another beyond hugs and cookies. But oh, what a mistake that is!

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Getting Gratitude

Getting Gratitude

I talk a lot about happiness & gratitude on this blog, but it's not a natural state for me, I have had to try to find the silver lining, the hidden blessing in the circumstance. He learned to heave those sighs from someone, after all.

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Boom-Boom!

Boom-Boom!

The best way to learn something is to make it a habit, right? So why not apply this logic to behavior? Do good things—and then pass it on.

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Good Intentions

Good Intentions

At the beginning of the break, I gave myself the task of visiting a park and library every few weeks. I plotted it out, even! I had four combinations set up, all over the Metro. Well, two out of four ain’t bad, right?

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The 3 Point Commitment

The 3 Point Commitment

When I heard about the 3 Point Commitment, a challenge for anyone and everyone to take on the task of avoiding complaining, gossiping and lying for ten days, I was intrigued. Could I do it?

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Norman: Andrews Park & Norman Public Library

Norman: Andrews Park & Norman Public Library

You can't get better frugal fun than a library and a park, right? And in Norman, you have the public library right across the street from Andrews Park, which features a splash pad (perfect for a hot day!), a playground and a bandshell (plus picnic tables, shelters, a gazebo, jogging course, restrooms and amphitheater).

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C'mon, Get Happy

C'mon, Get Happy

I try to live the example of being happy for the sake of happiness; of waking up and choosing to find the silver lining, and I've found that the more I try to do that? The less I have to try. It becomes a knee-jerk reaction.

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Portion Size Me

Portion Size Me

Healthy snacks: an oxymoron? Of course not! And knowledge of healthy snacks is important information for our kids to have. Recently, I took my own kids to Snack Wars, held at the Downtown YMCA & featuring Marshall Reid and his family. Marshall is known for writing the recent book Portion Size Me, which was inspired by his own experiences of being an overweight, bullied child.

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The Ice Cube Doesn’t Fall Far from the Iceburg

The Ice Cube Doesn’t Fall Far from the Iceburg

I’m not an outdoorsy girl; especially not an outdoorsy girl when it’s a million and ten outside (okay; 101—but that’s just a few zeroes away from a million and ten). We started the summer hanging at home in the mornings and doing chores/working, having lunch and then heading out to have some fun in the sun. But with the onset of hot temperatures, I’ve had to regroup...

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Having It All

Having It All

The article hit social media over the weekend and the morning news followed up early this week. The Atlantic’s July/August cover story once again raises the question: can women have it all? It’s a compelling issue and the article is fabulous, hitting on the common thoughts on the subject but also raising new issues. How can women be great mothers while still meeting their professional goals?

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Summer Resolutions: Frugal Fun!

Summer Resolutions: Frugal Fun!

I’m determined that for every morning spent hanging around the house so mommy can work, we’ll find a fun activity around the area that we can participate in. And since we’re budgeting, I’m all about finding as many FREE fun activities as I can!

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 30: Today’s Focus—Love.

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 30: Today’s Focus—Love.

And that’s what I’ll take from this 30 day challenge that I’ve stretched out over many weeks; invest in your family with love and you shall surely reap great benefits.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 29: Unplug When Your Child is With You

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 29: Unplug When Your Child is With You

I did not go willingly to this challenge. It took my smart phone malfunctioning and me not wanting to even look at the phone much less access it to get me to turn off my media.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 28—Teach your child a new word

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 28—Teach your child a new word

Yes, I adore my words. And as my kids got older and started to ask about more complicated words, I would help them to find the meanings or I would explain the meaning and context. But eventually, I got tired of being the human Google...

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 27—Do one thing that is good for your health

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 27—Do one thing that is good for your health

As a 40-something working mom, this can be difficult task for me to master. I eat well (and have a family who shares my love for fruits and vegetables), and I may never get more than one good night’s sleep in a row, but I can move. Well, usually.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 26 – Make it a point to encourage your child today.

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 26 – Make it a point to encourage your child today.

Encouragement. It’s more than just something we do when our kids are trying something new.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 24 & 25

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 24 & 25

My kids are verbal ramblers. They never met a story that didn’t need to take multiple tries and embellishments. They like to talk and their favorite after-school activity is to take turns in the “mama!?” game, asking me questions with machine-gun-like rapid fire speed.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 23: Replace sarcasm with kindness.

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 23: Replace sarcasm with kindness.

In our house, sarcasm is part of the landscape. It’s how we communicate with one another; it’s how we encourage each other, how we offer comfort. My kids hear plenty of messages delivered with kindness, but sometimes sarcasm is the easiest way for us to communicate.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 22: How do you want your child to remember you? Be that mom today

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 22: How do you want your child to remember you? Be that mom today

Each day I think about the job I did that day with my kids. I think that’s part of my generation; we’re a generation of thinkers and over-analyzers. But I want my children to be self-aware, not self-absorbed; generous with their time and affection and stingy with their judgments and cross words. And there’s only one way to do that.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 21: Forgive Yourself When You Mess Up

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 21: Forgive Yourself When You Mess Up

I remind my kids that we learn lessons when we make mistakes, our character is built in those moments when we face difficult decisions, such as making the choice between anger and forgiveness.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 20: Focus on Patience

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 20: Focus on Patience

I’ve been known to jokingly say: “patience is a virtue; and I’m not known for my virtues.” I laugh, but it’s true. Patience is not really my thing. But it is something that I’m learning to manage.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 19: Teach your child one thing he can do on his own today.

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 19: Teach your child one thing he can do on his own today.

Unfortunately, I’m one of those “oh, I’ll just do it myself” type of people. Now I’m not a martyr about it—I don’t get all passive-aggressive with the sighs and moaning about how I’m sooo terribly busy, but I still do it myself when I should let me kids take on some of the responsibility. Learning personal responsibility is a necessary part of childhood!

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 18: Who is a mom you admire?

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 18: Who is a mom you admire?

Who is a mom you admire? What quality of hers can you live out, today? This is a tough one. I’m surrounded by moms, both real and imagined, and there are many qualities I admire in many of them.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 17: Laugh with your child today.

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 17: Laugh with your child today.

Not a day goes by that we don’t laugh about something. My family is funny. We laugh a lot. We tease, we giggle, we find humor in most everyday occurrences (usually where we shouldn’t), in the music that we listen to (and then badly sing), the TV shows that we watch, the books we read.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 16

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 16

I read the other day that the goal of parenting is to raise our children to be able to function without us. Aye, there’s the rub...

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 15

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 15

Editor Mari shares her thoughts on Day 15 of her 30 Day Mom Challenge: Be firm when needed, but not harsh.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 14

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 14

To prevent myself from sinking into the pit of mommy martyrdom, today’s challenge to “remember that being a mother is a gift” is apropos. Deep down inside (some days it seems to be deeper than others), I revel in the blessing of motherhood. My kids are great people, and I’m so thankful to have the opportunity to help shape them into amazing adults.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 13

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 13

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 13—Do not criticize your child today. Another tough one. Am I a criticizer? In the dictionary, it says that criticism is fault-finding, negative judgment, and it’s something that I try to avoid.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 12

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 12

Every day I worry that I’ve made mistakes in parenting. But I think that the very fact that I question myself means that I’m doing a good job. Praying for wisdom in parenting sharpens my focus on my family, and raising my children is an important job that I don’t take for granted.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 11

30 Day Mom Challenge Day 11

So I got hit with that horrible winter head cold that made the rounds through the holidays. You know, just in time for the kids to be off from school and my husband to be at work? During that week when we had beautiful weather and I had a list of fun activities as long as my arm that I wanted to do with the kids. I’d been looking forward to this week, some pre-paid downtime since I had done my best to get my work done ahead of time so I’d be able to have fun without worry.

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30 Day Mom Challenge Day 10

How can a person focus on joy when life is filled with responsibilities? When from one moment to the next, the day rushes past at a breakneck pace while you switch from task to task, making sure that the things that “need” to be accomplished actually get done?

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Hi! I’m Mari Farthing and I’m a mother, wife and freelance writer and editor living in Moore. Originally from Wisconsin and formerly the editor of MetroFamily, my husband Tony and I made our home in Oklahoma via orders from the USAF after spending years living in Germany and Washington DC. When Tony retired from active duty in 2011, we became official “Oklahomies.” I’m a former multitasker and current work-at-home mom, which sometimes is an exercise in futility. I am interested in books, music, knitting, running, cooking, laughing and writing and occasionally I get bored and add a few more interests to fill up the final 15 minutes of my day.

I sometimes succeed, sometimes fail, and consistently rewrite the to-do list that manages my day.

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